Sunday, February 12, 2006

MySpace obsessed.

Okay. I really didn't need another layer of Internets mania in my life. And yet... Slash is on fucking MySpace, and if he doesn't add me as his friend I might have to hurt myself severely. Also? I have tracked the lives of my high school and college classmates and realized I am not as hopelessly floundering as I believed. This is neither good nor bad; this is perspective. I actually wouldn't even mind chatting with some of the people I found. On the other hand, I keep getting messages from men who really are too young to even think about emailing me, guys who think throwing an uppercase letter into their profile name is cute...whatevs. It is all completely fascinating. Of course, my dream is to once again find The Most Beautiful Boy in the World, who was in a bio class of mine in college. I don't care if he's taken, by a woman or man. He was so fucking magnificently gorgeous, he really should be shared with the world. Random aside: I saw Something New on Friday. It actually wasn't nearly as bad as I anticipated, and this is coming from someone who generally hates romantic comedies. The subject was treated much less tritely than I expected. The audience was surprisingly mixed--everyone from the black female/white male young professional couple to the middle-aged white married UWS unit was there. And hell, even I learned a few things about my peoples. I was actually almost impressed by the film. Although, for my own reference, I'd like a virtual show of hands: How many of you have been in interracial relationships? How many found your partner's understanding (or lack thereof) of the black plight to be a huge motherforking deal? Okay, who has heard of, let alone used, the phrase "the Black Tax" ? More than once in the last 90 days? Now, ladies, this is for you (actually, and gents if you are so inclined): Simon Baker wants to hit. Who says no? Happy Sunday ;-P


At 2/12/2006 06:42:00 AM, Blogger deborah said...

simon baker, he is australian ya know :P

At 2/12/2006 09:50:00 AM, Anonymous Shasta MacNasty said...

1. I've been in more than my fair share of mixed-color relationships.

2. It's ok if the guy isn't an activist. But he shouldn't be completely oblivious and/or dismissive to the black experience in america either.

3. I've never heard of the "black tax." Hmm. Maybe that's why I've been accused of not being "black enough" all these years, because I haven't been paying the black tax! Jesus christmas I wish someone TOLD me!

Anyway...what the hell is the black tax..

4. Simon gets a yes from me. :-D

Ok, so now I have to go see this movie. What's interesting, is that the reviews I've read for the movie are positive with black women, but black men seem to have their pretty pink panties in a twist about it. Whatevs. I ain't concerned.

At 2/12/2006 11:17:00 AM, Blogger divine m said...

1. Would you please re-invite me to My Space. Methinks I need to join. . . .

2. Interracial relationship: check. To oversimplify things . . . Him: Indian; Me: White. Yet his lack of understand of the black experience in America happened to be a big fucking deal, especially when our difference in perspective came up in the randomest places. For example, when I bought Barbie dolls, some black and some white (couldn't find Indian ones), for his nieces (some of whom are mixed race) and he made me return the black Barbies because he thought they'd offend the poor Dutch children.

3. "Black Tax"?

4. Simon Baker? Um, no. Sorry, Sid. You can have him, luv!

At 2/12/2006 01:39:00 PM, Blogger Sid said...

Saff: I know! I have had to change my official, culurally insensitive stance against all-people-australian-except-saff; there's just too much I actually like. Damnit. ;D

M:I'll send you the invite again dear, though you can just go to and sign up. And the outlook of non-black minorities on the black experience? A whole other (deeply interesting, frequently depressing) issue. Good point.

Shas: Yeah, see it in a matinee. I'm not calling it a cinematic masterpiece, that's for sure. Lord knows the pat resolution at the end had me blinking in disbelief, like "Um, so that's it? He's just gonna take her flaky ass back with that one line? Whatevers."

I honestly cannot understand what would have black men worked up, though. There is once scene that I think can be misconstrued as anti-black men, but really it's just the lead character quickly sizing up and ruling out the men she encounters in one group. She ain't playin'; she was looking for a BM.

As for sensitivity in IR relationships? I haven't been in many, but I'm inclined to believe that anybody who'd get themselves into one would have some sensitivity. I could be wrong (and been pretty lucky in the past), though ;P Also, in the movie, the obsession was hers. Eh, see it.

At 2/12/2006 02:45:00 PM, Blogger Mary said...

I still have yet to get sucked into all things myspace but now that I know how to search for people (thanks Sid), things could get ugly. I'll be all cracked out, no sleep, just online typing in people I was in 3rd grade with - *shiver*

R and I are in an interracial relationship, heh. He's told me he would get into it with his ex-fiancee over the black plight, and she was black. We don't get into it, because its not something I'll ever understand. He felt she should, though. And honestly, anything he tells me that they used to fight over makes me happy. I'm AWFUL. In conclusion, I have no idea wtf black tax is and Simon Baker could hit any day of the week and 5 times on my birthday. April 14th, here we come!

At 2/12/2006 03:30:00 PM, Blogger Mary said...

Okay, I just found my old roommate and in her main pic, she's wearing a necklace she stole from me when she moved out. I so want to leave a comment! I hate myspace!

At 2/21/2006 12:20:00 AM, Blogger ding said...

- i have been in interracial relationships, one-nighters and disastrous hookups.
-hm...lack of understanding. if i was with a white guy i made sure he wasn't annoying as hell about the whole ebony/ivory thing.
-i think 'black tax' is a west coast thing - though neither have i used the word 'plantation' to describe work. maybe it's a bougie thing.
-and simon? yes. i want a hot landscaper. now.
(and so sorry we didn't have a chance to get together. i flaked!)


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